Monthly Archives: December 2010

The Bucket List

Cancer patient’s last wish.

If this were your last Christmas, how will you celebrate it?

I have just watched The Bucket List (2007).

This movie is about 2 strangers, down with terminal lung cancer and how they come together to spend the last 3 months, which was the best part of their lives, fulfilling their wishes and finding the joy of their lives before they kick “the bucket”.

If you know you have only 3 months to live, what will your list be like? I will leave you with 2 meaningful takeaways from the movie.

Have you found joy in your life?

How did your life brought joy to others?

And not forgetting, if this were your last Christmas, how would you spend it?



What is GPA?

Nope, we are not talking about Grade Point Average, a grading system used in the post secondary education to access the students.

GPA is a very vital tool to the success and achieving the fulfillment of our lives.

GPA is

Goal                 – What are your goals?

Purpose            – What is the purpose of your goals?

Action              – What are your action plans to achieving your goals?

A picture paints a thousand words, here it is.

We should established goals in our lives. Is that enough? No! The goals are used to achieve a greater purpose. With the purpose (of life) clearly identified, we could then strategize our goal(s) to attain the desired purpose. The purpose will also allow us to stop and reflect if we are on the right track.

Over time, goals can be fulfilled, goals can be changed, but purpose will remain the same. We may also need a different set of goals to achieve the same purpose over time. With a clear purpose, we can now focus on the goal(s) that will aid us in achieving the purpose. With the goals clearly identified, we can then establish specific action plans to reach our goals.

In short, Action is a subset of Goal, which is a subset of Purpose.

For example, a GPA may look something like this –

Purpose – To achieve better well being.

Goal #1 – To lose weight, specifically xx kgs within yy months.

Goal #2 – To enhance my spiritual and emotional health

Action plan #a to Goal #1 – I will wake up at 5am every day and run 10km every morning before I go to work.

Action plan #b to Goal #1 – I will restrict my diet to 500 calories intake per day.

Action plan #c to Goal #2 – I will practice yoga

Action plan #d to Goal #2 – I will meditate every night before I go to sleep.

GPA has to be clearly identified, because clarity gives strength and a clearer path to success.

If you have 2 friends, both wanting to lose weight.

Friend A – I want to lose weight, but I am not too sure how should I do it.

Friend B – I want to lose weight. Every morning, I will wake up at 6am to run 4km, and will do 50 sits up and reverse crunch. After that, I will skip for 30 mins before I head for my shower to refresh myself before going to office. In the evening, I will head to my aerobic classes at 7pm, followed by kick boxing class at 830pm. I will end the day with another 4km run and 30mins of skipping.

Who will you think is more likely to lose weight?

GPA allows us to focus on achieving our purpose in life by identifying goals that will aid in such fulfillment. The specific action plans will bring us closer to achieve our goals.

I will come up with my GPA by 1 Jan 2011. I have 10 days to think about it.

What is your GPA?


We have got what it takes for a 大制作.

Kidney recipient finds out doner is wife’s lover

Sex, drama and violence. These are the ingredients for the big production, and we have got one made in Singapore.


A happy family with a daughter. Man falls ill with renal cancer. A savior comes along and save him with his kidney.


His savior is his wife’s lover.

His savior is his daugher’s father.

What else is more upsetting and humiliating for the man? He was lied extensively, one lie after another. He was lied about the lover, the father of their daughter and the donor’s identity.

Two minuses do give a plus, but two mistakes do not make anything right.

The poor man now ends up 6 months in jail for attacking the security guard and threatening the bystanders in an angry rampage triggered by his marital woes.

The wife was quoted saying (in the ST, the comments not found in this article though) that she still loves her husband, but hope to finalize the divorce soon. Did she just lie again?

Moral of the story – Do not lie.

Moral of the story II – If you need to lie, pls dun get caught.

Moral of the story III – If you need to lie, and unfortunately you got caught, pls do not tell another lie to cover the previous lie!

Have You Make The Difference?

This is my second time attending the Toastmaster Meeting.

Toastmaster International is an international, non profitable movement devoted in effective oral communication. It helps people to learn the art of speaking, listening and thinking – vital skills that promote self actualization, enhance leadership potential and foster human understanding.

2 interesting topics caught my attention – The virtue of being uncomfortable and The meaning of hunger.

It seems like an oxymoron.

Is uncomfortable a virtue?

Yes, it is if we know how to make use of it, said the speaker. Comfort is a destroyer. Comfort results in us resting on our laurels. Comfort makes us not wanting to get out of the comfort zone to seek improvement in ourselves! In short, comfort is not good. The virtue of being uncomfortable will put us in a state of perusing self improvements, to get out of our comfort zone to achieve higher standard of living.

The speaker ended his speech with a story about the starfish.

On a Mexican beach at sunset, a native was leaning down to pick up a starfish, one at a time, and throws it back into the sea.

A friend asks him “Good evening friend, I am wondering what are you doing?

I am throwing these starfish which was washed ashore by the low tide back into the ocean. If I do not throw them back into the sea, they will die up here from lack of oxygen.

I understand, but there must be thousands of starfish on this beach. You cant possibly get to all of them. This is probably happening to hundreds of beaches down the coast. How can you possibly make any difference?

The local native smiled and replied, “It made a difference to that one!

We must have heard the stories numerous times. But what is the moral of the story? It is not possible to make changes to the whole life, but any small change will make a difference to that one. It is not possible to help the whole world, but we can make a difference by helping people around us, our family, friends, neighbors and colleagues.

This relates closely to the other topic – the meaning of hunger.

There are about 600 million people living in hunger, of which many are children living in poor living conditions. World Vision is a is a Christian relief, development and advocacy organization dedicated to working with children, families and communities worldwide to reach their full potential by tackling the causes of poverty and injustice. It serves all people regardless of religion, race, ethnicity or gender. Their work extends over 100million people in nearly 100 countries.

How can we help?

We can make the difference by sponsoring a child. The money goes to developing and addressing their fundamental needs, such as access to clean water, basic healthcare, education, nutritious food and increased security. In short, we are helping them to lead a normal life. For such a noble cause, how much does it cost? $1.50 a day or $45 a month. What can you buy with $1.50? A can of soft drink? This can of soft drink can help someone out there to lead a normal life.

Have you make the difference?

Who am I?

Who Am I?

Our Government has done a great job in ensuring continuous education for the younger generation. After at least 14 years of education (2 years in kindergarten, 6 years at PSLE and 4/5 years doing O Levels and for some, 2 years JC and 3 years Uni), Singaporeans are so apt at solving differentiation equations, quantum physics theories and complex chemical equations.

However, how many of us can answer these questions?

1)      Who Am I?

2)      What is my passion?

3)      What is my ambition?

4)      What is my path?

5)      What do I want to do in life?

6)      What are my goals in life?

When we were young, teachers will ask what our dream is.

“I want to be the President”

“I want to be an Astronaut”

We often will hear children saying that is their dream.

What happens when we are 16 years old, 26 years old, 36 years old?

We no longer have a dream?

We no longer have a passion?

We grow, but we did not grow up.

Psychological age is not equivalent to chronological age.

One may be living in a 50 year-old body, but with a maturity mindset of a 16’s.

We have often stop to take stock of our life.

A life which is left unexamined is like a ship sailing aimlessly.

Are we too comfortable in our comfort zone? I don’t think so.

Rather, people are too uncomfortable to move out of the comfort zone, reluctant to venture into uncharted water to look for ways to improve themselves, so they stop improving.

When they stop improving, they stop growing.

To quote from an audiobook – “Write your friend an advance paychecks for 12 months, and if you have done something to improve yourself, your friend will return you the paycheck. If you have not done anything to upgrade yourself, your friend will spend your paycheck immediately. After 12 months, you are guaranteed to be a much better person.

I volunteer to be your friend. Anyone? 🙂