Monthly Archives: March 2011

10 Things to Make Your Relationship Better

Romance is a very small part of what makes a long-term relationship successful, it’s getting the other 98 percent right that makes a couple last in the long haul. It’s too bad we don’t have any days devoted to issues like communication, fighting fairly, and forgiving.  Relationship change requires behavior change, and this is far from easy. Fortunately there are certain, very specific things you—yes, you—can do over the year that may change your relationship for the better. Very often you’ll find that your partner quickly and enthusiastically reciprocates, and the entire dynamic of your relationship changes.  Focus on the following ten steps and transform your good (or so-so or maybe even deeply troubled) relationship into a great relationship:

1. Ask yourself: Would I rather be right…or would I rather be happy?

She doesn’t load the dishwasher the right way, you leave your socks on the bedroom floor, and she keeps squeezing the toothpaste tube in the middle. And these little, everyday toilet-seat-up-or-down issues are just the tip of the iceberg. Couples argue over almost everything—and some do. In order to have a successful relationship, both partners need to accept that we all have our different ways of doing things. What’s more, you both need to realize that accepting those differences is a key to a peaceful relationship. No one wants to be micromanaged, especially in their own home. If you just want to be right and prove your point on everything, your relationship is likely to fail. The fact is that often, there isn’t a right or a wrong way, just different ways. Assuming that yours is the right—and only—way is arrogant and disrespectful. Think about the big picture. Does it really matter how chores are done or is this really just about control?

2. Master the fine art of communication.

It sounds so simple: she speaks, you listen; and vice versa. But it’s actually more complex than it sounds. Communication is at the root of the problems faced by almost every couple I’ve ever seen. Gender differences, contrasting thinking styles, and different personalities can all make communication inside a relationship especially difficult. If you can learn to communicate effectively with your partner, you are well on your way to a successful and happy partnership and also a better night’s sleep for the both of you. The biggest mistake that couples make is not realizing the need to create an environment that allows their partner to talk freely about their thoughts and feelings. If your wife doesn’t reveal too much about herself, it may be that she is not very skilled at doing that—or it may be that every time she tries to tell you something she gets shot down. People simply won’t talk if they think they are going to get criticized in some way. Be respectful and listen. You may not understand or agree but you should always respect your partner’s right their viewpoint.

3. Learn to fight fair.

You’ve probably heard that couples argue most about Sex and Finances. But are these disputes really about sex and money or are they about something else? Emotional discussions by their very nature are about more important underlying issues, like trust, control, or jealousy. It’s just that money and sex are the currency of control in many relationships; how you handle these conflicts will determine whether the underlying problem is exacerbated or resolved. So how do you fight fair? Well, there are some guidelines: calling time-outs when things get too heated, never fighting in front of anyone else, not dragging unnecessary skeletons out of the closet, and so forth; but for the most part, fighting fair means trying to solve the issue rather than trying to tally up who’s better than who when it comes to you and your partner. Try to abandon the usual strategy of trying to win at all costs. Instead, work toward a productive resolution that you can both accept.

4. Commit, already. (And no, it has nothing to do with a wedding ring!)

Commitment is the glue that keeps a relationship together and yet most people haven’t a clue what the word “Commitment” really means. They think in terms of marriage licenses or sexual fidelity, but real commitment goes beyond what goes on behind closed doors and wedding bands. The truth is, you can be totally faithful to your partner but still not be committed to the relationship.  Commitment really means that you consider the other person in all matters—you consider how any action you might take affects your partner and the relationship. This does not mean that you will always make personal decisions secondary to your relationship, It does mean, however, that you make every effort to consider the impact of your actions and treat the relationship and your partner with fairness, respect, and without harm. Various studies have shown commitment to be a predictor of long-term marital happiness and stability.

5. Be trustworthy.

In a solid relationship, you need to be able to make the assumption that your “other half” is telling you what you need to know and doing what they say they’re doing; and the feeling needs to be 100% mutual. That’s what trust means. It isn’t just about fidelity, It’s about trusting that your partner will respect you, be honest with you (which includes avoiding secretive behavior and “lies of omission”), and not hurt you. Do not break trust with your partner. Lack of trust is corrosive. It eats away at the very fabric of a relationship and leads to disillusion and dissolution. Once trust has been broken, it is very difficult, often impossible, to regain it. Even a gullible person will wise up eventually to an untrustworthy partner. In order to make this part of your relationship better, you must learn how to deal with anger and conflict. If you, as a couple, can manage anger and disputes, then both of you are less likely to resort to lies and deceit to avoid confrontation.

6. Learn how to share unconditionally.

This is much harder than it sounds. People are not very good at sharing. We fight hard for ownership and refuse to let it go once we have it. In fact, sharing is so foreign to most of us that we give up something only because we hope that giving up something we love will be beneficial for us in return. And that’s not sharing at all—it’s trading. We all want unconditional love and yet we find it very difficult to give ourselves unconditionally and yet, successful relationships do require sacrifice. Someone has to give up something from time to time—whether it’s something big like a career or a hometown or something small like acquiescing to your partner on her choice of restaurant. Try giving your partner an unconditional surprise at least once a week. Do it without expecting anything in return. And if you’ve been holding out on giving up on something, consider letting it go. You may be surprised at just how good it makes both of you feel.

7. Nurture your partner’s dreams and goals.

In a nutshell, nurturing your partner means accepting their independence and doing whatever you can to encourage it.  If your inclination is to be with your partner 24/7 and control their every move, you really need to take a step back and learn to be a self-sufficient, independent human being. What you are doing is the opposite of nurturing and is no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don’t stop. On the other hand, if you’re failing to nurture your partner because you don’t know what their goals, dreams, and aspirations are, you simply need to ask. Then, devise three ways that you could assist in the realization of those goals. It can be a total game changer for your relationship.

8. Forget the roses.

Flying to Florida and boarding the cruise ship is not a romantic interlude if you then spend all your time in the casino and she becomes irremovably attached to the spa. Romance is, above all, about making your partner feel special, and you can do that only by paying attention. It will cost than time and staying in doors for awhile, which shouldn’t be a problem. It is all too easy in the mayhem of everyday life not to make time for romance. In the heady stages of the early infatuation, romance was natural and an essential priority. However, as the relationship matures, you have to go out of your way to make sure that romance occurs at all. Without special attention and time alone together, intimacy will disappear. Realize that romance can happen at anytime, anywhere if you make it happen.

9. Embrace the F-word: forgiveness.

In the course of your most intimate relationship, conflicts and major disagreements will occur. But one of the secrets of a successful relationship is ensuring that these muddy waters of disenchantment and anger don’t inevitably harden into bricks of resentment. To steer away, quickly, from resentment, you need to accept two facts that many couples struggle with:
• you cannot control another person unless they let you.
• Sometimes you have to give up, or modify, your dreams.
Unless you come to terms with these facts, you are going to have a rough time being successful in any close relationship. If you carry around resentment, you are the one who really suffers from the stress of the anger and frustration.

10. Don’t make an “ass” out of “u” and “me.” (Don’t assume!)

Do you really understand your partner? Or do you at least think you do? One of our most important life skills is the ability to monitor our own instant judgments and automatic perceptions and measure them against reality. We all project our interpretations about others’— especially our partner’s— behavior. But such projections are a problem because most of the time we’re wrong or missing some important detail. Learn to resist your natural tendency to interpret your partner’s behavior. Instead, actually talk to her to find out what’s really going on. This is a crucial (and underused) relationship skill. Asking, instead of assuming, will result in a much more peaceful environment and trying to find out what your partner is really thinking and feeling and respecting it is a true act of love.

A good relationship shouldn’t take a ton of hard work. However, it does take a certain amount of reflection, self-control, compromise, and vigilance. You can’t just do what you want to do all the time and expect to be happy in your partnership. However, the time you put into creating and maintaining a healthy relationship is worth the effort.

Source: http://www.shavemagazine.com


Be Right or be Happy?

You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions – Naguib Mahfouz

How is your year going so far? It’s good to from time to time review how things are going. And to have a look at how you can make the rest of this year even better.

So I’d like to share four valuable questions that I ask myself all the time to keep myself on track towards a better life. Maybe they are new to you. Or maybe they are just healthy reminders that can help you to focus your mind and actions once again.

1. How can I give value in this situation?

This is a great way to improve your relationships and interactions. Four awesome reasons to give value in your everyday life are:

  • It makes you feel awesome.
  • You tend to get what you give.
  • It makes your life a whole lot more fun.
  • It makes it easier to start new relationships and improve your old ones.

What value can you give in a situation/to another person? Well, a bunch of suggestions would be: bringing a positive attitude into situations, being kind, helping out in a practical way, lending a listening ear, cheering someone up, offering useful advice or creating a fun/exciting situation for people in your life.

2. Would I rather be right or be happy?

Right in this question means the need to judge, the need to be right while interacting with other people. It’s not just about the guy who can’t be wrong in a discussion though.

It’s about the thought that you don’t always have to be against people or things. You don’t have to exist in a “me against the world” or “me against someone” headspace. You don’t have to defend positions all the time or build walls. You can let go of the mentality that says “someday I’ll show them all!” that may be based in some sad stories from your youth. You can just relax, be cool and be with people instead of being against them in some subtle or not so subtle ways.

Feeling like you are right can bring some pleasure. But beyond that there is a lot more connection, happiness and positivity to be found. I like this question when I feel like I have to be right and judge. When I need to let go of inner trash. Or when I just have a feeling within that I should re-examine my current beliefs to move forward. I often find something helpful by doing so.

3. What is the most important thing I can do right now?

If you are lost in what to do next in your day, week or life, ask yourself this question. The answer might not always be what you want to hear because the most important thing is often one of the harder things you want to do too. But it can help you to check your priorities and stop you from getting lost in busy work and instead start tackling the really big stuff that will improve your life in any area in the long run.

4. What do I think is the right thing to do?

One of the hardest things to do in life is to do the right thing. What you think is the right thing. Not what your friends, family, teachers, boss and society thinks is the right thing.

What is the right thing? That’s up to you to decide. Often you have a little voice in your head that tells what the right thing is. Or a gut feeling.

Here are three reasons to do the right thing:

  • You tend to get what you give. I already mentioned this as a reason to give value (one of those things that I often think is right thing to do). By doing the right thing you tend to get the same things back. Give value to people, help them and they will often want to help you and give you value in some form. Not everyone will do it but many will. Not always right away but somewhere down the line. Things tend to even out. Do the right thing, put in the extra effort and you tend to get good stuff back. Don’t do it and you tend to get less good stuff back from the world.
  • To raise your self-esteem. This is a really important point. When you don’t do the right thing you are not only sending out signals out into your world. You are also sending signals to yourself. When you don’t do the right thing you don’t feel good about yourself. You may experience emptiness or get stuck in negative thought loops. It’s like you are letting yourself down. You are telling yourself that you can’t handle doing the right thing. To not do the right thing is a bit like punching yourself in the stomach.
  • To avoid self-sabotage. A powerful side effect of not doing the right thing is that you give yourself a lack of deservedness. This can really screw up you and your success. If you don’t do the right thing in your life then you won’t feel like you deserve the success that you may be on your way towards or experiencing right now. So you start to self-sabotage, perhaps deliberately or through unconscious thoughts. By doing the right thing you can raise your self-esteem and feel like a person who deserves his/her success.

source – http://www.positivityblog.com/


10 Ways to Perk Up Your Relationship

Source: http://www.webmd.com

Most couples focus on avoiding conflict. But happy couples know how to maximize the positive—teasing each other, providing support in secret, and, when called for, taking the focus off their partner.

If you’ve ever gotten relationship advice, you’ve probably heard plenty of don’ts. Don’t nag. Don’t stonewall. Don’t blame. Don’t leave the toilet seat up, don’t squeeze the toothpaste tube from the middle, and definitely don’t assume he’s that into you when he’s just not. Well, don’t listen.

The happiest couples focus on do’s, not don’ts. Rather than just steering clear of negative interactions, they actively work to build positivity into their relationships. They show what psychologists call an “approach orientation,” moving toward what’s good, rather than moving away from what’s bad.

Traditionally, couples research has focused more on minimizing negatives (arguments, emotional distance, infidelity) than on maximizing positives. But a new wave of research is changing all that. Positivity-oriented psychologists find that maintaining a favorable balance of positive to negative emotions helps people—and relationships—thrive. “We’ve already learned about all the toxic stuff that harms relationships,” says psychologist Dacher Keltner, author of Born to Be Good. “There’s a whole new science of how to build in good emotions.”

Positivity has a way of shifting our perspective: While negative emotions shut us down, positive emotions open us up. They help us “broaden and build,” argues Barbara Fredrickson, a psychologist at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and author of Positivity. Positive emotions actually spur big-picture thinking, yielding benefits like keener peripheral vision and increased creativity—not to mention better relationships.

“Finding ways to inject humor and lightness into a difficult situation is not merely a distraction,” says Fredrickson, “It actually helps people see possibilities.” Partners stuck in a “one-note song” should move towards greater positivity by seizing “micro-opportunities” to connect, she says. Positive emotion is about more than just having fun—it includes gratitude, inspiration, and curiosity.

When participants do a “loving-kindness meditation,” a form of meditation focused on generating warm and tender feelings toward others, the quotient of positive emotions in their lives increases, which in turn boosts relationship satisfaction, Frederickson has found.

In fact, just setting more positive goals for your relationship can make you happier as a couple. Couples who seek to increase the good in their relationships, concentrating on sharing fun and meaningful experiences together, promoting growth and development in the relationship, and creating satisfaction and intimacy (“approach-oriented goals”), fare better than couples focused on ducking the negatives (“avoidant-oriented” goals), says Emily Impett, a researcher at UC Berkeley.

You may not always achieve all the positives you seek—but it’s enough to realize that positivity is important and to set goals reflecting that. The payoff is great: more fun, more growth, better sex, and more sustained intimacy.

1: Be grateful.

Remembering to thank your partner seems simple, but gratitude may provide the everyday dose of spackle that keeps you glued together over the long haul. “Gratitude helps remind us of the good qualities in our partners,” says Sara Algoe, a psychologist at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. “It reminds people to attend to the others in their lives.”

In a study of cohabitating couples, on days that one partner expressed more gratitude, the other felt more satisfied with the relationship. “We get into these routines and start taking our partners for granted,” says Algoe. “But gratitude can work as a booster shot, injecting positive emotion into the relationship.”

A low-quality expression of gratitude focuses on the object—”Thank you for cooking dinner, I was really hungry,” explains Fredrickson. It’s much better to focus on the other person: “You’re such a great cook; it’s so thoughtful of you to cook for me!”

“A lot of people express their appreciation in self-absorbed ways,” Fredrickson says. “But when the expression of gratitude focuses on the other person, we find the other person walks around feeling better about themselves—and six months later, the relationship is stronger.”

2: Poke fun at each other.

Playfulness is one of the first casualties of a busy life, says Dacher Keltner. When your life consists of nothing but working, paying bills, cleaning, and sleep, play can disappear from a relationship. “You have to keep it alive by having fun, joking around, using silly nicknames,” he suggests.

You may think sincere communication is the way to handle a serious issue. But Keltner has found that couples who teased each other in the heat of a conflict felt more connected after the fact. When he staged a conflict discussion in his lab and compared couples who communicated in a direct, logical way with those who made light of the conflict, he found that couples who tease are happier and reach more peaceful resolutions.

That’s because couples who can tease can use that modality to handle the tough stuff in a relationship. Even silly nicknames help turn conflicts into peaceful exchanges, Keltner says, by reminding couples to smile at each other’s quirks. So if you’re annoyed by a partner’s long-standing habit—say, stealing the covers in the middle of the night—try teasing. Calling your partner the Blanket Monster might take the edge off your irritation while reminding your partner to share. Remember to tease in a way that’s playful, not hostile; use nonverbal cues that convey you’re having fun, like a silly facial expression or a change in tone.

3: Capitalize on good news.

We expect our partners to provide us with a shoulder to cry on when times are tough—but how couples behave during good times might be even more important. Partners who respond enthusiastically to each other’s successes—asking questions, paying compliments, and cheering each other on—report greater relationship satisfaction over time, says Shelly Gable, a researcher at the University of California, Santa Barbara. A couple’s ability to “capitalize”—that is, to celebrate each other’s positive events—predicts satisfaction better than their commiseration over negative events.

When something good happens to your partner—a promotion, a compliment from a coworker, or even just a witticism that gets a big laugh—seize the opportunity to make the most of it. You don’t need a major event as an excuse to break out the good china.

4: Use your illusions.

We may think putting our mates on a pedestal is unrealistic—but in fact, partners who idealize each other wind up happier. Partners in the most satisfied couples rate their mates more positively than the mates rate themselves, finds Sandra Murray, a psychologist at the University at Buffalo (SUNY) who studies positive illusions.

Similarly, when spouses perceived their partners as being nicer than their actual behavior warranted, they maintained greater long-term satisfaction than spouses who did not idealize each other as much, according to research by Paul Miller, Sylvia Niehuis, and Ted Huston at the University of Texas, Austin.

So if you value your clear-eyed judgment of others, including your partner, it may be time to ease up a little and concentrate on what you like about your mate. Looking through a soft-focus lens might help you build a genuinely rosier picture over time.

5: Find your ideal self—in your partner.

Happy couples bring out the best in each other. But when partners more closely resemble each other’s ideal selves, couples fare better—above and beyond the benefit to the relationship afforded by how similar you are in actuality, says Caryl Rusbult, a psychologist at the Free University of Amsterdam.

Someone who describes her ideal self as physically fit, for instance, might be happy being with a disciplined athlete; someone who longs to be more creative might thrive with an artistic partner. Rusbult calls this the “Michelangelo effect,” since partners can help “sculpt” each other’s best selves by affirming each other’s efforts at self-improvement. The aspiring fitness buff, for example, appreciates her athletic partner’s reminders to work out.

So try listing your personal goals. Then think about the qualities you like most in your partner. Chances are, there’s overlap between the self you aspire to and the aspects of your partner you appreciate most. Then recruit your partner to help you improve in the domains that matter to you. You’ll not only get closer to your ideal self—you’ll also feel closer to your partner.

6: Notice what’s new about your partner.

Letting your partner surprise you is vital to sustaining excitement in your relationship. But in order to be surprised, you first have to pay attention.

The problem is that most of us get so familiar with our partners, we stop really noticing them. “But the fact that you stopped looking doesn’t mean they’ve stopped changing,” says Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer. It’s only the illusion of stability, Langer says, that leads us to conclude our partners are fixed, static entities.

“You feel like you’ve captured who this is in your mind, so you hold them still,” says Langer. “But they’re actually growing and changing all the time. Once we think we know another person so well that we don’t pay attention to them anymore, the person stops being seen.”

So take the time to actively notice differences: Look for five things that are different from the last time you looked. These differences can be as simple as a new necktie and as profound as a shift in spiritual beliefs. Taking the time to notice—what she calls “mindful awareness”—increases our engagement with our partner.

When non-football-fans watch a game while writing down new things they notice about the players and the stadium, they become more enthusiastic about the sport, Langer found. “You develop a passion for what you’re engaged in,” she says.

So become engaged with your partner. Once you begin to really pay attention, you’ll be amazed by what you discover.

7: Put it in writing.

For a recent Valentine’s Day, Los Angeles-based film editor Stefan Grube gave his wife Julie a journal, with the idea that the couple would take turns writing to each other. “There’s something great about using a pen and paper that helps us really take the time and express our feelings,” says Julie. “I cannot tell you how excited I am when I see he’s replaced it on our shelf and I know there’s a love letter awaiting me.”

Writing has a way of shoring up romantic emotions. A University of Texas study found that when participants wrote about their relationships for 20 minutes at a time for 3 days, they were more likely to be together 3 months later. They also expressed more positive emotions in instant message conversations with each other—the writing had prompted more good feelings about the relationship. So next time you think fondly of your partner, write those thoughts down.

8: Provide support in secret.

You might think showing a stressed-out partner explicit support—like cooking special meals or running time-consuming errands—will shore up your connection. But overt social support carries a cost: Partners feel obligated, which leads to more stress, found Niall Bolger, a psychologist at Columbia University.

The most effective support was actually “invisible.” When one partner claimed to be providing support the other partner did not report receiving, the other partner showed more improvement in mood than when receiving explicit support.

The lesson? Hidden acts of kindness brighten your mate’s day, especially when he or she is going through a challenging time. So instead of making grand gestures, find subtle ways to make your partner’s life easier: Stock the fridge with a favorite drink or straighten up a cluttered workspace. Being surreptitiously supportive is a good way to exercise your positivity muscle on a small scale.

9: Get back in touch.

Sure, having regular sex does wonders for relationship satisfaction and well-being. But for couples whose sex life is stalled, even just a little warm touch can make a difference.

A simple “listening touch” exercise, in which partners gently touch each other’s neck, shoulders, and hands, increases oxytocin, a hormone that facilitates bonding, and reduces partners’ blood pressure and physiological stress levels, found a team of researchers from Brigham State University and the University of Utah.

“Cultivating ‘body sense’ awareness on one’s own and with one’s partner is essential, not only for a good sexual relationship but during any close encounter,” says Alan Fogel, a University of Utah psychologist who helped develop the touch intervention.

In other words, you can reap the benefits of physical closeness even when you don’t have the time or energy for full-blown intimacy. Just a quick hug or backrub can boost your mood—and your connection with your mate.

10: Look after yourself.

You may think the best way to improve your relationship is to focus more on your partner, but that’s not always true. Investing in your own life and happiness will pay off, too.

“If you’re going through a rough patch, often the most effective thing that you can do is to lovingly remove your attention from the relationship—period,” says Susan Biali, wellness coach and author of Your Prescription for Life. “Forget about what the other person is doing badly, or isn’t doing, and focus on taking positive action in your own life instead.”

By making your life more satisfying, you take pressure off your relationship to be your sole source of happiness. “Plus, by taking care of what you need to in your own life, you bring a more positive attitude back into the relationship,” Biali says. “The other person will start to treat you differently—without you having done anything other than shift your energy into your own life.” For Biali, this strategy took her relationship from “constant chaos” to happy marriage.

Whether you choose to say thanks, sneak in some invisible support, or coin a silly nickname, a little positivity goes a long way. Small gestures matter. Expensive gifts and exotic vacations are nice, but not as meaningful in the long term as simple actions like taking the time to notice a new outfit or cheer a partner’s success. Positivity expands your awareness, begetting more positivity—more noticing, more engagement, more appreciation, and more trust. Little actions help build a reservoir of goodwill that will keep your relationship replenished.

The opportunities to fill that reservoir are out there. Don’t miss them.


Brunch Place

source: http://www.ladyironchef.com

Brasserie Les Saveurs
29 Tanglin Road
The St. Regis
Tel: +65 6506 6888
* Weekend Brunch: 11am – 4pm
88++ per pax (No alcohol)
198++ per pax (free flow champagne)

Boomarang
60 Robertson Quay
#01-15 The Quayside
Tel: +65 6738 1077
* Weekend Brunch: 8am – 3 pm

Cafe Epicurious
60 Robertson Quay
#01-02 The Quayside
Tel: +65 6734 7720
Also available at: Rail Mall
Weekend Brunch: 9am – 2 pm

Cafe Hacienda
13A Dempsey Road
Tel: +65 6476 2922
* Weekday Brunch: 10.30am – 5pm, Weekend Brunch: 8.30am – 5pm

Carousel
25 Scotts Road
GF Royal Plaza on Scotts
Tel: +65 6589 7799
* Daily Breakfast: 6.30am – 10am ($38++ per pax)

Checkers Deli
581 Orchard Road
Hilton Singapore Hotel
Tel: +65 6730 3392
* Sunday Brunch 12noon – 3pm
85++ per pax (no alcohol)
110++ per pax (free flow of wine)
160++ per pax (free flow champagne)

Choupinette
607 Bukit Timah road #01-01
Tel: +65 6466 0613
* Weekday Brunch 9am – 5pm, Weekend Brunch: 8am – 5pm

eM by the River
1 Nanson Road #01-05
The Gallery Hotel Singapore
Tel: +65 6836 9691
Weekday All Day Breakfast: 9am to 3pm
Weekend All Day Breakfast: 8am to 3pm

Garibaldi Italian Restaurant
36 Purvis Street
#01-02 Talib Centre
Tel: +65 6837 1468
* Sunday Brunch: 12noon – 2.30pm ($48++ per pax)

Global Kitchen
Level 3, Pan Pacific Hotel
7 Raffles Boulevard, Marina Square
Tel: +65 6826-8240
* Weekend Champagne Brunch Buffet
$98++ per adult (with Champagne, wines, cocktails, beers, juices and soft drinks)
$88++ per adult (with wines, cocktails, beers, juices and soft drinks)
$78++ per adult (with juices and soft drinks)

Graze
4 Rochester Park
Tel: +65 6775 9000
* Sunday Brunch: 9.30am – 4pm

Greenhouse
7 Raffles Avenue
3/F Ritz-Carlton Millenia
Tel: +65 6434 5288

Halia
1 Cluny Road
Singapore Botanic Gardens
Tel: +65 6476 6711
* Weekend Brunch: 9am – 3pm

Hatched Restaurant
26 Evans Road
#01-06 Evans Lodge
Tel: +65 6735 0012
* All Day Brunch: 8am – 10pm (Closed on Mon)

Heart Bistro
390 Orchard Road
#B1-08 Palais Renaissance
Tel: +65 6737 2148
* Weekend Breakfast: 1030am – 1130am

Jones the grocer
9 Dempsey road
#01-12 Tanglin Village
Tel: 6476 1512
Also available at: #04-21/22/23 Mandarin Gallery
* Weekday Brunch: 8.30am – 12noon, Weekend Brunch: 8.30am – 3pm

KPO Cafe & Bar
1 Killiney road
Killney Post Office
Tel: +65 6733 3648
* All Day Breakfast: 10.30am – 11.00pm

Le Bistrot
2 Stadium Walk
#01-03 Singapore Indoor Stadium
Tel: +65 6447 0018
* Weekend Brunch: 10.30am – 12noon ($28++ per pax)

Marmalade Pantry
2 Orchard Turn
#03-22 ION Orchard
Tel: +65 6734 2700
* Weekend Brunch: 10am – 3pm

Magma German Wine Bistro
2 Bukit Pasoh Road
Tel: +65 6221 0634
* Weekend Brunch 11am – 3pm

Melt The World Cafe
5 Raffles Avenue
4F The Oriental Singapore
Tel: +65 6885 3082
* Weekend Champagne Brunch Buffet: 10.30am – 3pm
$88++ per adult (with free flow Champagne & wines)
$118++ per adult (with free flow fruit juices & drinks)

Mezza9
10 Scotts Road
2F Grand Hyatt
Tel: +65 6416 7189
* Sunday Brunch buffet: 11.30am – 2.30pm
$138++ per adult (with free flow Champagne)
$108++ per adult (with free flow fruit juices)

Mimolette Restaurant & Bar
55 Fairways Drive
Tel: +65 6467 7748
* Weekend Brunch 10am – 3pm

One Ninety
190 Orchard Boulevard
GF Four Seasons Hotel
Tel: +65 6734 1110
* Sunday Brunch Buffet: 11.45 – 2pm
$88++ per pax (No Alcohol)
$138++ per pax (free flow champagne & cocktail)

One Rochester
1 Rochester Park
Rochester Park
Tel: +65 6773 0070
* Sunday Brunch: 9am – 2.30pm

OverEasy One Fullerton
1 Fullerton Road
#01-06 One Fullerton
Tel: +65 6423 0701

1TwentySix
902 East Coast Parkway
Blk E, #01-26 Playground @ Big Splash
Tel: +65 6348 2126
* Sunday Brunch: 11am – 3pm

Paulaner Brauhaus
9 Raffles Boulevard
#01-01 Millenia Walk
Tel: +65 6883 2572
* Sunday brunch buffet: 11.30am – 2.30pm
$35++ per pax (with free flow soft drinks)
$45++ (with free flow beer)

Picotin
100 Turf Club Road
Tel: +65 6877 1191
* All Day Breakfast: 8am – 11am

Pierside Kitchen & Bar
1 Fullerton Road
#01-01 One Fullerton
Tel: +65 6438 0400
* Sunday Brunch: 11am – 3pm

Privé bakery café
2 Keppel Bay Vista
GF Marina @ Keppel Bay
Tel: +65 6776 0777
* All Day Breakfast: 9.30am – 5pm

Relish
501 Bukit timah road
#02-01 Cluny court
Tel: +65 6763 1547

Riders Cafe
51 Fairways Drive
Bukit Timah Saddle Club
Tel: +65 6466 9819
* Weekend Brunch: 11am – 2pm

Senso Ristorante
21 Club street #01-01
Tel: +65 6224 3534
* Sunday Brunch 11.30 – 3.30
78++ per pax (free flow sparkling wine)

Spruce
320 Tanglin Road
Phoenix Park
Tel: +65 6836 5528
* Weekend Brunch: 8.30am – 2.30pm

The Bar & Billard Room
1 Beach Road
Raffles Hotel
Tel: +65 6412 1816
* Sunday Brunch Buffet: 11.30am – 3pm
148++ per pax (No Alcohol)
188++ per pax (free flow champagne)

The Tanglin Tree
56 Tanglin Road
#01-01 Tanglin Post Office
Tel: +65 6733 0992
* Weekend Brunch: 8.30am – 4 pm

The White Rabbit
39C Harding Road
Tel: +65 6473 9965
* Weekend Brunch: 11am – 2.30pm

Town Restaurant
1 Fullerton Square
GF Fullerton Hotel
Tel: +65 6877 8128
* Sunday Brunch: 12noon – 3.30pm
98++ per pax (free flow of juices)
148++ per pax (free flow of champagne)

Wasabi Bistro
5 Raffles Avenue
4F Mandarin Oriental Singapore
Tel: +65 6885 3091
* Weekend Brunch Buffet: 12noon – 2pm (58++ per pax)

Wild Honey
333A Orchard Road
#03-02 Mandarin Gallery
Tel: +65 6235 3900
* All Day Brunch 9.30am – 9.30pm

Wild Rocket at Mount Emily
10A Upper Wilkie road
GF Hangout @ Mount Emily
Tel: +65 6339 9448
* Sunday Brunch: 11.30am – 3p


Stop, take Stock, there’s more to Life than juz work

A story worth sharing (again…)

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to takingcare of the house and the kid. ‘cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, Ihad to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the ‘problem’… a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged
straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:

“Dad, I was hungry and there wasn’t anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I
remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me.

However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under
the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you
‘cos I was playing with my toys…I am sorry Dad…”

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks…but I didn’t want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son’s room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to
focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to
most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating
from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting
impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son’s absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn’t to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, ‘I am sorry, Dad’. But after much probing, I realized that it was a ‘Talent Show’ organized by his school and the invite is for every student’s mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy…..

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. ‘cos he makes me proud too!

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It’s
winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in
every passer-by…Christmas carols and frantic shoppers….but alas, my
son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day’s work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted topost several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn’t help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ‘ I’m sorry, Dad’ and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.
My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: ” But why did you post so many letters, at one time?” My son’s reply was: ” I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once…”

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to
say….

I told my son, ” Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if
you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach
mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash.

And one of the letters broke my heart….

Dear Mummy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a ‘Talent Show’ in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was
afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?

After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. ‘cos I can never replace
the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife….

For the females with children:
dont’t do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be somekind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.

For the married men:

Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.

Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally
dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this
society, no one is indispensable. Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.

For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first.

With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other
things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. dont’t let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.




What are Words – Chris Medina

Anywhere you are, I am near
Anywhere you go, I’ll be there
Anytime you whisper my name, you’ll see
How every single promise I keep
Cuz what kind of guy would I be
If I was to leave when you need me most

What are words
If you really don’t mean them
When you say them
What are words
If they’re only for good times
Then they don’t
When it’s love
Yeah, you say them out loud
Those words, They never go away
They live on, even when we’re gone

And I know an angel was sent just for me
And I know I’m meant to be where I am
And I’m gonna be
Standing right beside her tonight

And I’m gonna be by your side
I would never leave when she needs me most

What are words
If you really don’t mean them
When you say them
What are words
If they’re only for good times
Then they don’t
When it’s love
Yeah, you say them out loud
Those words, They never go away
They live on, even when we’re gone

Anywhere you are, I am near
Anywhere you go, I’ll be there
And I’m gonna be here forever more
Every single promise I keep
Cuz what kind of guy would I be
If I was to leave when you need me most

I’m forever keeping my angel close